It is Father’s Day today and it also would have been the 95th birthday of my Dad.
So before I go rambling on about my Dad, may I wish all Father’s a Very Happy Father’s Day. I know the circumstances surrounding this special day are not always ideal and unfortunately not all Father’s have the opportunity or the privilege of spending time with their children today.
A sad reality of the times we live in is the number of broken marriages. And Father’s are often on the losing end when it comes to having to negotiate visiting rights and access to their children.
Sadly I am also aware of many Father’s who have decided to abandon their obligations to their children after the breakup of a marriage, and this not only means financial obligations, but also the obligation of being a parent and being part of their children’s lives.
My Dad was not the best Dad in the world and my parents did not have a happy marriage. I have many memories of plates being thrown across the room by my parents and the consistent yelling and screaming at each other that ensued, with my brother and I sitting in our rooms quietly hoping it would all go away and wishing we could just leave.
My Mother’s struggle with alcohol exacerbated the situation and I am sure there are many of you with similar stories.
This blog is not to share the pains and bad memories of my life, but rather a celebration of my Father.
Regardless of how bad things were at home, he was always there for us. He stuck it out and bit his tongue with my mother and the end of his years were enough to test anyone.
He always made sure we were well provided for and we wanted for nothing and he stood by my mother and us till the end.
I left home at 17 to seek a better life and that too was filled with its own trials and tribulations.
Sadly my Dad was diagnosed with Emphesema at about the same time as I left home and he spent many years carrying around an oxygen bottle as he was not able to breathe and slept in a recliner as he could not lay down.
My last memory of my Dad was my final visit to him in hospital before he passed away where he pointed to the corner of his room. He could not speak much as he had an oxygen mask on. He had bought my eldest son a gift for his second Birthday.
It was one of those black scooters that toddlers love riding around.
I remember the moment like it was yesterday. I was 22 at the time (some 32 years ago).
My Dad passed on a few days after this and never got to see his Grandson use the scooter.
I only have fleeting memories of my Dad now and wish I had more time with him and wish he could have gotten to know his 4 amazing Grandsons and Great Grandchildren. They have done me proud and I know he is looking down on them, full of pride and joy.
Here’s to you Dad, with all my love and thanks for bringing me into this world.