Here we are halfway through the Festive Season once again. Blink and it’s over.
Last year this time I was still in hospital struggling with my cancer treatment, knowing I would in all likelyhood get through it but nevertheless felt as though my life was at an end and I would never realise my dreams and get to that Bucket list.
I spent a lot of time thinking about life and what my priorities were. Thinking about those who are important to me and regretting petty squabbles with those I hold dear to my heart.
I still haven’t realised any of my dreams or tackled that Bucket list but that is another topic for discussion.
I no longer hold grudges as life is too short. It is not worth carrying hurt with you.
I ended my marriage quite a few years ago and I remember the first Christmas after. Sad I was not with my Children, but I had made a decision which I have no regrets about. I didn’t want to put my Children in a position where they would have to chose one parent over the other or them feeling guilty about not being with the other parent. It was not a choice I wanted them to make. So I stepped back and gladly let their Dad have Christmas.
The reality is that we do not need “Christmas” in order to have a good time with our children. I still do Christmas with my Children but just not on the 25th December and we usually try to celebrate “MY” Christmas on the 5th December which is when the Dutch celebrate theirs. My boyfriend is Dutch and it was one way of bringing our two families and traditions together in my new life too.
There are many broken families out there where only one parent shares in the joy of this festive season. And many single parents are left at home alone, heart broken.
I am blessed to have very dear friends who I now spend Christmas with and consider them all part of my extended family. We celebrate with many different family traditions, great food, great wine and great conversation.
Each year I get to have my own Christmas Festival starting with Christmas with my Children in early December and culminating with Christmas Eve and Christmas dinner with very close friends whose friendship I value most.
From someone who is truly blessed, I wish you all a Blessed Christmas too and hope all your dreams and wishes are realised in the coming year.
Merry Christmas all!